One of the alternatives to getting married is the forever flatmates/odd couple model. Which is kinda like the inverse of friends with benefits. You got two friends (am thinking same gender) who are practically married to each other minus the romance/sex. For the latter u get a boyfriend or something. In ways it can work way better than a regular marriage or regular singledom. Infact, I dunno why women don’t do this more often. When u partner with someone whos not from another planet, u run a much smoother household. And its not like we would be dispensing with men and the general variety they bring in altogether, we just get rid of a lot of the uncertainty and incompatibility, which is crucial to the running of lifes day-to-day business.
Again the risk here is that of commitment. Even when this whole set up is working wonderfully well for you, deep down, you might be tempted to cave into the “since civilization began” notion of what a woman ought to be. That is married, and get hitched by one of those boyfriends.
One way to minimize this risk is to get into the odd couple model with three people, instead of two. Even if one leaves, you still have the other.
The other possibility is, well, to get married. Who says u have to be a lesbian to have same sex marriage? You get into a legally binding relationship with ur significant other, so that getting out is no light business. Just like any marriage.
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like we discussed, I still think 3 is going to be a biiig problem!
Living in is much fun. No stress. Everything a marriage has to offer without the legal binding and the subsequent craving for space.
well.
In all ways, you need to get the right person.
If you get one, you just find it difficult to name the relationship.
H: biig..i dunno. bt yes, wid 2, we can keep things simple
June: hey! long tym!
the thing is, i do like dt steady boat feelin (read: dependability n poolin in of resources). n also, wt im tryin to say in d post is that not only can u have the steady boat, but u can have better coordination with ur partner n d man romance, all in one, if we try the alternative model.
n for that very reason, livin in is smtin i wud do only during the 'is dis d one' analysis phase. to keep my space n remain stress free i wud do separate rooms mebe n yoga.
brain: amen to the first comment
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